When I sat down at my desk this morning, I didn't think I would ask that question. After all, it seems like an easy question to answer, doesn't it? We have sex because we are happy.
However, it seems that for many people this is not the case. Our motivations for having sex are all different. So after taking a look at the reasons people have for collapsing and getting dirty, you can tell me what your reasons are.
Sex is good for the brain
All of this was inspired by the news that sex can make the brain work better and more efficiently. Yes, another study was done on our sex life.
For whatever reason, curious scientists and researchers cannot leave her alone. They want to know exactly what the benefits of sex are, so we have a lot of excuses to do it.
However, this study analyzes the activity of the brain and the intelligence of the elderly. The results showed that there is a connection between your sex life and your intelligence. Before running away, it is not enough to get a university degree.
However, not only did those who had a greater interest in sex have more intelligence and brain activity, but they also showed better processing power, better memory, and cognitive functioning. better. This is a victory for sex and science!
The worrying part
That's good news, isn't it? Having more sex makes you smarter and there's absolutely nothing that could be wrong with that ... right?
Wrong. There are some worrying things that we discover after this news and it is not the study itself that causes them. In fact, the way people react to this news is the worrying part.
A newspaper wanted to get a little interactivity in their article by asking its readers just why they have sex. The options offered were a little worrying. Here are the answers in order of appearance:
"Because my spouse wants to," "Because I'm very good," "To improve my IQ," "To lose weight," "Because it's fun," and finally, "Not". Yes, having sex "because it's fun" was the fifth of six options, even more so than not having sex at all.
Why the other options?
In reality, we should have sex just because we are happy. After all, sex is a very personal and fun thing to do when done right, so why would we do it for any reason other than our satisfaction? While the most selected answer was "because it's fun", a worrying 32% of people gave other reasons.
The second best answer "because my husband wants", received 14% of the votes (when I last checked). I understand the reasoning behind this answer. People have different sexual urges and sometimes you just can't satisfy each other. In a previous relationship, the guy I was dating just couldn't get me down. When we had sex, it was all about satisfying both of us right away.
However, the other answers are worrying. 8% of people chose "because I'm very good" and another 5% said they want to "improve their IQ". Whether this is true or whether people have simply chosen the answer they find most amusing.
While no one chose the "lose weight" option, 5% said they simply don't have sex. It is not uncommon for people to fall into a sexual routine and for this routine to stop altogether, but the fact that 5% of people do not have sex is a little worrying.
So, if you suspect that your partner is having sex for the wrong reasons and is no longer enjoying it, what can you do to change that?
Think about who you focus on during sex. Is it you or is it your partner? It may be that no matter how many moans he makes, he simply pretends to feel better.
Take the time to try the foreplay, lick her pussy and stick your fingers in and out until her whole body blushes to orgasm.
Did you fall into a routine? If so, it's time to make a change. Try a few new positions or just have sex in another room. Sex doesn't have to be just in the bedroom, so why not pull on the couch or kitchen counter to be a little more sensual.
Now, when I have sex, it's because I want to, but what about you? Are you guilty of having sex just because your partner wants it or do you have other reasons? Let us know by leaving a comment in the box below
