It really is the blog that is taking the Internet by storm. "How to Make Me Come" has gone viral on Tumblr and features women writing anonymously about their sexual experiences, needs and desires.
It was created by a 27-year-old writer named "Sylvia" and began with her unsatisfactory experience.
"Suffice it to say it was not the greatest physical or emotional experience," she told The Times.
"I felt he misunderstood what I was going through sexually and I couldn't talk about it right now."
Interruption of communication
It seems that when you read through posts, communication or lack thereof is the biggest source of frustration for women. It doesn't matter if it's a one-night stand or a life partner; it is difficult for them to discuss these things.
It seems that this is due to the desire to please, not to hurt the feelings of their partners and not to want to feel uncomfortable around someone they have just met.
However, "Sylvia" has found a way to carry on this discussion and it seems that everyone is paying attention.
It all came after a conversation with a friend.
"I have never discussed such detailed and honest sex. In the end, I felt very loaded and I thought I had to give this feeling to other women ...
"It quickly became apparent that women felt the itch to talk about all this."
Introducing the blog, she writes: “Imagine being able to talk to a past or future sexual partner without judgment or repercussions. What would you like him to know? ”
"The female orgasm can sometimes be difficult to achieve and / or talk about, but it goes beyond that.
“When we talk about female orgasm, we play a little deeper - for one, the evaluation of society and the conversation about female sexuality; the consequences of which bleed in areas of our lives away from the bedroom.
“We wanted to start a dialogue about how women achieve sexual pleasure; something that is often ignored, devalued, or misunderstood. ”
Originally intended only as something between friends, it has now reached a much wider audience.
Popular with boys
Perhaps most interestingly, about half of the taxpayers are men, showing that they are really interested in finding out what makes women tick.
Sylvia told the Times that most of the advice actually contradicts itself, showing that every woman is different, so she needs to communicate with her partner if she wants to start having those wonderful orgasms.
"Whether it's a one-night stand or a serious long-term relationship, we all need to recognize that we can't read our partners' minds and they can't read ours," she adds.
"We have to talk."
Well, do you want to hear some of these sex stories? Of course yes. Here are some of the best posts from "How to Make Me Come". Definitely worth a visit.
Be patient and listen
Let me tell you about the first time I really came.
You were patient and good. You made me comfortable. Relaxed. Wishing I was vulnerable. I fell in love with you. And then all this made me trust. I told you exactly what to do.
The second one I did, you listened, you followed the instructions and suddenly, on a Saturday afternoon during the magic hour, the sunset filtered through the wooden blinds, it felt exactly like that moment in -a movie when the camera approaches someone's iris and you see the whole reality (OK, what that means I don't know, but it's a direct quote) of life moving super speed, a noise of sounds, cuts in dance, space travel, people f ******, ending with a chandelier of opera singer crushing the high note.
Women, consider your needs as well as theirs
I faked MANY orgasms. For so long, my self-esteem has been hung not by a thread, but by a tiny little shave of a nail on a nail file. I wanted the boys to like me so much. I needed their validation in my place ... I had sex for the man and not for me. I would be too ashamed to say "Hey, this doesn't work for me", because I would like them to think that I am easy and I had a lot of experience. I would be so preoccupied with finishing them that I would ignore mine. I would be too scared to admit that I'm not sure I know what I want.
It's not just about sex
For me, although the real sexual act is obviously wonderful, I think that everything that leads to it is the same, if not more important. Listen carefully, because this will be extremely useful when you are lucky enough to take me to your bed.
Do:
Take the lead. I like it when a guy has initiative and makes me feel wanted. Make me feel like you can't wait to take off my clothes. That will make me want to take off my clothes. (See how it works?)
Tease me. Take the time to really get me started. Lips, ears, neck, inner thighs, lower stomach, etc. they need attention. The more you walk without standing up first, the better it will feel when you finally get there. And it will make your work a lot easier.
Take the time to teach my body. What worked for your ex may not work for me. We are all very different, so if you are not a kind of vaginal wizard / genius, it will take a while for you to learn how to make me come. That's OK. Let's just agree that we won't stress too much about it.
Believe me when I tell you it won't happen tonight. Sometimes I won't come. It's usually not your fault, it's just the reality of the situation.
Not:
Ask me if I'm coming soon. If you do that, it will be in my head and I will begin to descend into the frightening "don't have fun" spiral. We all know how this ends ...
Get mad at me or you if he doesn't come. This does not help and will not ease next time.
Think that just because I didn't come, it was a waste / I wasn't happy / you're not a man. It may not have happened this time, but it's always there tomorrow morning
