It is difficult to find the courage to ask your partner about something new that you want to try in the bedroom. It always seems even more difficult when it involves BDSM, because there is still a taboo surrounding it.
Spanking is one of those practices that can result in a negative response, and even if you get a positive response, it may be difficult for you to know exactly what to do. It's not as simple as slapping your partner during sex.
Fortunately, here at Barby Escorts, we created this "spanking for beginners" guide to help those who want to try spanking for the first time understand what they need to do to do it right.
Speaking of spank
The best way to find out how your partner feels about beatings is to ask them. You may be nervous, but it is preferable to simply go and get a bad reaction instead.
Have an open and honest conversation about it. Tell them what starts your spanking, whether it's the idea of beating your partner or being spanked by your partner. If it's part of a fantasy, take the time to explain to them exactly what involves your fantasy and why you want to try it.
Helping them understand the spanking fetish will mean that they are more likely to try it and enjoy doing it with you. If they are not sure to try, suggest him to do it only once to see how they feel. He may be very active to see your reaction to the blow.
Word of safety
As with many games of domination, you should set a safe word that can be said by either party to mean "stop." Choose a word that you are unlikely to accidentally shout if you arrive at that moment, and do not choose to stop if that word plays into your imagination.
For example, if you go after the school mistress who punishes you, saying "stop" can actually improve the experience and show reluctance. Make the word easy to say and make sure you are willing to acknowledge when it is said.
By no means do I want to convey that I recommend for the mother to be inactive. It could just mean that you need to take a moment to slow down and talk about how you feel about the experience. If things move too fast or are a little heavy, you can take the time to talk about it and make sure you and your partner are both on the same wavelength.
Heating
Do not jump straight with your fist. First you want to make yourself and your partner as relaxed as possible, so start with foreplay and warm up.
A massage could even help your partner relax. Start with warm body oil or massage lotion and work your whole body slowly. Spend a good amount of time (at least ten minutes) doing this to help them relax.
Start slow and soft
You may want your partner to hit you with a firm hand and leave a mark, or you may want to put your palm on their back hard enough to make them scream, but you shouldn't you hurry with it.
Instead, start slowly with light touches with your open hand and go for the heavier shots. Talk to your partner and tell them what you want to do or want to do to make things easier. They will appreciate your advice and help and you can make sure you both get what you want.
When you're ready, move on to heavier blows. Keep telling them how good it feels and just have fun with it. Remember, if it is too much to use the word safe and discuss what you want in the future. After that, you can talk to your partner to see if they liked it.
Do you like spanking? Is it part of a role play or is it just a little extra for your sex life that you really like? You can share your experiences on Barby Escorts or by leaving a comment in the box below
