"No" may be the short answer you want to give to this question, but it seems that this answer may not be correct, after a recent study suggested that we have become so dissatisfied with our sex lives that I just lost all interest in sex.
Is our sex life so bad that the idea of being fucked off? We look at the results of the study and what you can do to fix your interest in sex.
National survey on sexual attitudes and lifestyles
The results came from the national survey on sexual attitudes and lifestyles. Otherwise, the study looked at sex life from the age of 16 until the late 1970s.
The questions they asked were very personal and covered a wide range of topics. They looked at almost everything, from how often they bumped into pornography to the kind of things they got up in bed.
Basically, they wanted to know what kind of problems people who have sex face and if things have changed a lot since the old days of sex until now. They expected things to be different because we have more access to porn, but the results are surprising.
Problems in the bedroom
A lot of people have said that they have had at least one sexual problem in the last year. When we say "a lot", we are actually referring to half of the women surveyed and two-fifths of the men. There are huge numbers!
The problems that people faced when it came to sex were very diverse. It was almost everything you could imagine, from difficulties with the climax (too soon or not getting it at all) to simply not wanting to have sex.
However, the main problem that people seemed to face was simply a lack of interest in sex.
No interest in sex
About a third of the women surveyed said they were not interested in sex, and one in twelve said they had absolutely no arousal or enthusiasm when having sex. No matter the position, whether it's a puppy or a girl from above, they just don't want to fuck.
The number for men was slightly different, with only one-sixth of men saying they had no interest in sex and one in twenty-four did not feel ignited by the fact that they had actually fucked a hot woman.
So what can you do to improve your interest in sex? First, you need to address the issue. If you are not started having sex, is it because of the partner you have sex with? Do you just not find them attractive? If so, you need to figure out how to change this.
If you are not interested in sex, try to set aside a certain moment to fuck her. Arranging a set time to have sex with your partner can actually build anticipation, which helps you ignite. This may be all you need to help your interest in sex.
Some of those surveyed said they had no interest in sex because they had problems with orgasm. For some, the climax came too early, while others simply could not get there at all.
15% of men surveyed said they had premature ejaculation problems and that it was the same as that of eight men who simply could not lift it. If this is a problem you are having, talk to your doctor about it. He might have some great ideas to help. If you prefer not to, don't worry too much. Many of the problems that men with roosters face, such as coming too soon or not keeping them, come from the concern that they will not live up to their expectations. Try to get it out of your head and you will notice a difference, even if it is small.
One in six said they simply did not reach orgasm, or too long to get there, that their partner finished and cleaned up before he was even close to going down. In this case, you need to talk to your partner. You may need a little extra attention, such as an erotic massage and a great blowjob, to help you get there.
Lack of communication
Not surprisingly, the lack of communication was the source of many of the problems that respondents experienced in the bedroom. For whatever reason, we are happy to talk about sex with friends, but not with our partners.
Ten percent of men surveyed and 7 percent of women said they were unsure of their partner's appreciations and dislikes in bed because they did not talk about the things that turn them on and off as they go about it.
The solution to this may seem simple, but it is easier said than done. Trying to talk to your partner about sex can be really challenging, especially if you or they have an embarrassed fetish. The best time to talk about sex is after you've had it. You feel more relaxed and at ease, which makes it the perfect time to reveal those dirty secrets.
No matter what your partner confesses his deepest and darkest desire, don't judge him for it. Negative reaction to a fantasy can cause a lot of harm, because your partner will not want to share anything else with you, for fear of rejection. Even if it's not something you're interested in, at least try to understand and talk to them about it. You can be clear that it's not something you want to do, but still let them have that fantasy.
Do we enjoy sex?
Many of these results make me wonder if people really love sex. Sure, here on the blog, we talk a lot about it, but it doesn't seem to match the survey results.
Have we really lost interest in sex? Personally, I can say that I did not. In any case, my interest in sex is bigger and better than ever. Is yours the same?
You can tell us what you think or you can simply leave a comment in the box below. Are you still interested in sex or have you found your sexual desire declining lately? Let us know
