Anal sex can be daunting if you haven't done it before. For both the giver and the receiver, it may seem scary, but if you are too scared to try, then you may not be ready. If you are, however, you want the best advice to make things go well.
When trying something for the first time, you should take the time to talk about it and research with your partner to make sure it is what you both want. If you can't talk about it, you may not be ready to go on with it. Take the opportunity to talk to your partner and you will have taken the first step.
Heating
Preparing for anal sex is a long process. As a man, you may be ready to move directly to him, but your partner will not be. They need to really relax to make sure they enjoy it as much as possible without getting hurt in the process.
Give your partner a full massage first. Not only will it help them relax and ease their pain, but it can also be a huge change when your partner touches your entire body for a sensual massage. Don't just take five quick minutes to slide your hands up and down - really work to make them feel good.
Another method that can help you is to enjoy a hot shower or a bath together. It gives you both a chance to make sure everything is clean and the water temperature will help you relax.
An essential that you should have on hand is the lubricant. Anointing is very important for anal sex. With normal vaginal sex, a lot of lubrication comes from the body, but anal sex does not have this. Instead, you need to use a lot of lubricants to help you slip there. Put both on the penis and on the bottom of the partner to make things easier.
Take your time
If you find that you are trying to sneak in there, stop. Do not force it and do not hurry and instead switch to simple anal play, where you put your finger in her ass. This will help their body to adapt to the feeling of fullness there and, over time, you will notice that their body is more forgiving when it comes to larger objects.
As a giver, you may think you are in control, but in reality it is the recipient. They can control speed, depth and if it doesn't happen at all, so follow their decision. If it asks you to slow down, do so. patience is extremely important to make it as pleasant as possible.
When you finally find out you're there, talk to your partner and see if he's okay. If it is, move slowly at first until you feel comfortable with what you are doing. Keep checking how she's feeling and if she asks you to stop, do it. You can try again anytime.
How was the first time you had anal sex?
